someday wrote:
But take disconnection for example. Ultimately this is a choice for the individual to make. I for one have disconnected with two members of my family within scientology because… well to be blunt they have been complete assholes. Of course should they prove themselves to be worthy of our families affections again and apologize for their despicable behaviour we’ll welcome them back with open arms. But my point is that someone disconnecting from another, horrible and wrong though it is, does happen irregardless of your “religion” saying you should or not. It is an arguable point.
Call me selective, but I just want to address this one point.
I have never been a Scientologist, but I've practiced the "Wog" version of disconnection.
My family were all political assholes. Not political in the sense of believing in one political party or another, but the type where the family thrived on internal, familial politics.
It got so bad that I've not spoken to a family member in about 10 years.
Thus, I decided that I'd never speak to my family again, until they could have the balls to speak to me regarding certain personal transgressions.
However...
This was done out of a complete and true "free will". There was no pressure whatsoever to coerce me to one decision or another. This is where Scientology differs. You have all those people on the inside, egging you on, either silently or directly, as to what course will "make it go right". My decision wouldn't cost me anything but what I already knew was directly involved... For a Scientologist, it's family, friends...
maybe an SP Declare...
Maybe you'll be "investigated noisily.... A whole buffet of side effects that should never have been there in the first place.
I skipped the "peer pressure" in my decision. It was a decision that, although the circumstances around it were FUBAR, the decision itself was
pure
Scientologists, as far as I can see, do not have this luxury... Their decisions are coerced, guided, persuaded...
dirty. It boils down to, if you don't want to do what the collective asksof you/tells you to do, you'll lose it and you should fear that.
My decision was made without that fear... I'm afraid I can't say that for all Scientologists.