Thanks for that info. I know they say - send love & keep in touch & do not criticise CO$, but he knows that although co$ May have some good points, I can not find much to admire in CO$, especially how it is hurting his family, but have tried not to put it down but make those around him know about COS so maybe they will talk to him. I do not think he has friends, but business co workers as he can be the nice guy [till you truly get to know him] & I do not think they know I exist "If you do not want people to know, don't do it - so I am letting them know I do exist, also COS does & he is one.
One way I am not worried about him as he made his choice & it hurt us - so just want the controls he has over me [the money he owes me & my home] severed by court so helping me survive & in so doing he will have no $ for CO$ so also help him out; yet in another way I feel sorry for him & would like to help him just as long as it does not hurt me.
I guess that 2000 LB hurts us as much as him, but he made the choice - not us. I realize he is affected by them, but enough is enough - he has to break that 2000LB & I think one day he may, not completely get out, but loosen it - but too little to late. I want what he owes me & my freedom & go on w my life. If/when he gets freer I will be there for as little/much as fits my lifestyle at that time - he has hurt me tooo much. Yes he is a COS puppet & not nice, but was not nice for many years so I blame the COS but also him It is good to know what you said as it helps when he is so nasty
He told me on our wedding anniversary he wanted to talk about his church & if I changed the topic he would put the phone down [I think they practised him what to say & were listening in] I let him waffle on, he ended w "if you do not come & live w me in the church, I WILL HAVE TO HATE YOU & DO EVERY THING I CAN TO HURT YOU - & has been. So this thread - I think he loves me as much as he can [not much as he does not know love] & trying to be horrid in hopes he will get me back [twisted mind] but back firing, I don't want the him that is, but could have been & certainly not COS - he is breaking this family apart but I feel he is on the losing end in the end. It helps to know he is controlled & not I am bad, but it hurts. Better things have to come for me - the hurting is here but will go, but will his?? He has been so rotten to me - but I am still here, but can not take much more. I know he is hurting & will never get me out his mind - told he paces a lot & likes to keep busy so not think. Thanks for being a friend